Oh yeah. And the other thing, self pity kicks off a bit if you are alone with your head for too long. Regardless of how long you have been sober. Us humans are social animals! We were not designed to be on our own for too long. On 'unscheduled' days I like to nip in to an early city meeting and go for coffee after or a busy lunch meeting in town and coffee after.
I love the coffee bistro scene. Especially in this GREAT weather. Sitting outside on little tables in the sun in busy streets gasbagging about anything and everything. Its great fun!
Anyway the social aspect of aa is important as a way of avoiding negative lethargy of the mind when left on its own too long. So what I mean is that it really helps to punctuate time alone with short social lunch or morning meetings. Otherwise you can get a bit moody! I actually love being able to go to meetings as they are always full of interesting colorful people, and I love it when I see people I haven't seen for a while.
AA really IS 'The pub with no beer'.
I really do think that I spend too much time without socializing. I think that maybe I can get the Al-Anons to do a bit more of it. Our meetings are generally late, from 8 to 9 PM so coffee afterwards for a short while is about the only option. Thanks for all that you write. It's good stuff.
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