tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post1600682904552711024..comments2024-01-13T01:45:45.724+00:00Comments on Recovery Archive: Soft or Hard? Open or Closed?: The beauty and bravery of vulnerabilityAn Irish Friend of Billhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-4739590904128749392007-07-13T21:35:00.000+01:002007-07-13T21:35:00.000+01:00A good friend of mine that I met via Boot Camp tha...A good friend of mine that I met via Boot Camp that has been an anonymous member for over 10 years honestly tells me about his thought of this double edged sword. The mind, it can convinve us that we "can drink like a gentleman (gentlewoman in our case)". Scary, esp cuz when one goes out after many years of sobriety they don't have it within to come back.<BR/><BR/>I don't know, I have early on in the battle yet has gained so much. Does that make sense? <BR/><BR/>Something that echoes in my head is something I have a hard time conveying. I remember someone @ the podium saying not to mix up about how you are feeling to what you are actually doing. <BR/><BR/>Anyhow just want to say I think you are wonderful, courageous and I adore your human-ness.Gooey Munsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592004042013543535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-15015830114919954832007-07-08T18:25:00.000+01:002007-07-08T18:25:00.000+01:00Thank you Ms Irish Friend of Bill for dropping by ...Thank you Ms Irish Friend of Bill for dropping by and your vote of confidence. Looked like all the hard works finally has paid off. I sometime missed lunch or dinner hacking and tweaking all day long, and I loved it.<BR/><BR/>Not too long ago, about four years back I know nothing about computer, let alone blogging. I'm far too busy <I>scoring!</I><BR/><BR/>Anyway, I love to educate myself something new, absorbed tirelessly every single knowledge available about the Internet. I shall tell you more in my next post. See you around Ms Irish Friend of Bill.ArahMan7https://www.blogger.com/profile/10800847777772543779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-63642899552260906662007-07-08T18:13:00.000+01:002007-07-08T18:13:00.000+01:00Cool! Thats a new one for me Ms 2Dogs! I will look...Cool! Thats a new one for me Ms 2Dogs! I will look him up! Thanks for the hot tip!An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-57873991171944299842007-07-08T17:31:00.000+01:002007-07-08T17:31:00.000+01:00Oh yes, try Thomas Merton, an extraordinary monk w...Oh yes, try Thomas Merton, an extraordinary monk who was an awesome writer.twodogsblogginghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13880551498311725249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-27059396592917155242007-07-08T17:28:00.000+01:002007-07-08T17:28:00.000+01:00Thank you! I remember when I got into the program ...Thank you! I remember when I got into the program their were so many loving women who, to this day, I model my behavior after. I found the phony, aloof, jealous, bitchy ones eventually eliminated themselves. I'm coming to Ireland soon to meet you! We'll have tea and crumpets. I was there a few years back and absolutely loved it. I even kissed the Blarney stone although I didn't need to, obviously.twodogsblogginghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13880551498311725249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-36251204175775594812007-07-07T11:05:00.000+01:002007-07-07T11:05:00.000+01:00Mooooo!Mooooo!Kathy Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808513070742589781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-14044724206680115762007-07-06T12:46:00.000+01:002007-07-06T12:46:00.000+01:00yeh I find too that the more i tel the truth (tho ...yeh I find too that the more i tel the truth (tho not in a victim, selfseeking, or aggressive way) but, the more I reveal about me and let go, the more others seem to accept and or let go. Its odd, when I accept this is how/who I am and dont expect others to understand, and forgive them for not understanding, the easier it is all round. Which doesnt mean being an all the time open book, it just about being true to me, authentic. To thine own self be true. Going to pieces without falling apart, yeh I HAVE done this, its sooo liberating and a hugely growing up experience. Might check out that book thanks.johnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340689357666450129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-6406497896317792842007-07-05T19:29:00.000+01:002007-07-05T19:29:00.000+01:00Yes, I've found that among some "normal" friends, ...Yes, I've found that among some "normal" friends, they don't understand and I no longer try to tell them. They have no point of reference for the effects of alcoholism. I just keep my boundaries intact and maintain conversation about something that we do have in common.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-81899286739152673422007-07-05T09:34:00.000+01:002007-07-05T09:34:00.000+01:00Hey thanks Ms Shadow! Yeah it IS hard for a non al...Hey thanks Ms Shadow! Yeah it IS hard for a non alcohoic to grasp. But thats why i like the St Francis prayer "It is better to UNDERSTAND than to be UNDERSTOOOD. Meaning, I long since stopped trying to make others understand this thing. Its FAR better for ME to work hard at unerstanding THEIR inabilty to grasp this, and just accept that thats how it is. Stop trying to 'make them see it the way I do'. Cool. im off now..An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-62547980432629731172007-07-05T09:19:00.000+01:002007-07-05T09:19:00.000+01:00that's good, very, very good. and complacency is t...that's good, very, very good. <BR/><BR/>and complacency is the biggest evil, i have to agree. hubby tends to say to me to get over it and forget it. he can't understand that i dare not forget it, 'cause then i'll be in big trouble....Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.com