tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post3858502131136392366..comments2024-01-13T01:45:45.724+00:00Comments on Recovery Archive: There is quite possibly nothing as unattractive as desperationAn Irish Friend of Billhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-3417394594722985012010-03-19T01:51:25.736+00:002010-03-19T01:51:25.736+00:00one of the greatest lessons being revealed to me o...one of the greatest lessons being revealed to me over and over again, but this time I'm listening...is that ultimately we are all alone, not in a desperate or terible way but in a way that offers us solitude and love not lonliness and desperation. I have had to recently let go some frinedships and such that were overlly dramatic and too much work...andit was very difficult, life offers many lessons for me in the people presented. Thank you as always for this post and your posts...I always take away so much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15127343815869529555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-45973715929326608992010-03-15T18:15:26.173+00:002010-03-15T18:15:26.173+00:00I'm here via Syd and so glad! I love meeting ...I'm here via Syd and so glad! I love meeting new recovery blogger friends. I like how you described the woman who sees herself as less than without another human to focus on. Detaching, letting go, giving in, and surrendering are what finally made me teachable. I believe in miracles..for her too.<br /><br />♥namaste♥Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-24404471653224487012010-03-15T17:29:19.198+00:002010-03-15T17:29:19.198+00:00IFOB, it sounds like you meet truly incredible peo...IFOB, it sounds like you meet truly incredible people through AA. I know that I have met my best friends while in treatment too. I think there's just an instant connection with people who have suffered in similar ways to you. It's very powerful, even if you don't become friends.<br /><br />Enjoy the lovely spring day! It's rainy over here, so I will have to live vicariously through you.<br /><br />Wishing you well,<br />NOSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-57371556134166783362010-03-15T17:12:05.198+00:002010-03-15T17:12:05.198+00:00I am chronically dependent upon my job. How do I k...I am chronically dependent upon my job. How do I know? The fear and other defects it brings up when I consider leaving. Yet to stay is destructive.<br /><br />Can't live with, can't live without!<br /><br />Job or no job, I am changing my name to Job<br /><br />happy spring :)johnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340689357666450129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-23245375849070451122010-03-15T13:55:11.387+00:002010-03-15T13:55:11.387+00:00The first young lady sounds like she need some goo...The first young lady sounds like she need some good Al-Anon eventually. I understand that desperate feeling of needing to be needed (i.e. being in a relationship). It's as if I had to be interlocked with another. Chronic dependence is like a vise grip on the heart and mind. I realize as you wrote that it is likely I will have some form of dependency as long as I live. Mine manifests these days in being hurt by what others do or say. I will be a work in progress for the rest of my life.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-28044782091546129552010-03-15T13:31:16.529+00:002010-03-15T13:31:16.529+00:00the good news about desperation is that it sometim...the good news about desperation is that it sometimes comes just before a moment of willingness. and willingess seems to be the key ingredient to recovery. thank God for despair!<br /><br />i sometimes think that our greatest friend in the endeavor to help the suffering alcoholic is the disease itself. i like to acknowledge this and leave all the heavy lifting to the disease.<br /><br />take care! glad to see you posting again.<br /><br />mike l.Mike L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03218230734014569429noreply@blogger.com