tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post5900583081042650413..comments2024-01-13T01:45:45.724+00:00Comments on Recovery Archive: "Do you think honesty comes in degrees? Or is it all or nothing?"An Irish Friend of Billhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-38304385767939602262007-09-30T18:47:00.000+01:002007-09-30T18:47:00.000+01:00What honesty consists in depends on how one define...What honesty consists in depends on how one defines truth.<BR/><BR/>Good post.<BR/><BR/>/end philosophy grad ModeRecovery Road Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05095540109922051600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-58586859819697432332007-09-27T10:32:00.000+01:002007-09-27T10:32:00.000+01:00hey! i've posted a quote on my blog especially for...hey! i've posted a quote on my blog especially for you!!!Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-76091489516723412742007-09-26T23:24:00.000+01:002007-09-26T23:24:00.000+01:00One of the things I have had to face is that while...One of the things I have had to face is that while I always touted myself as an honest person, I clearly wasn't. Especially with myself. Now I can strive for total honesty but in reality, like when it may hurt someone, the best is to consider each situation. I think it comes down to motives. As long as your motives are pure. As you said, the effort and the intention. <BR/>Sounds like you are enjoying the busyness of academia. Good for you.Kathy Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808513070742589781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-58427782909467044232007-09-26T22:18:00.000+01:002007-09-26T22:18:00.000+01:00Hmm. well the exclusion criteria, is 'except when ...Hmm. well the exclusion criteria, is 'except when to do so would injure them or others'. 'others' includes ourselves.<BR/>This example of what you call being 'honest', AA calls 'breaking anonymity', and is really a tradition 12 issue.<BR/>Because parents and family members can so easily get distressed at the knowledge of their children going to AA, I advise AGAINST breaking ones anonymity (for the first year or so at least) , unless there is strong evidence to suggest they wll have a positive reaction.<BR/>As this is on a case by case basis, (like a lot of feedback on things in AA), it is best to consult a sponsor, or failing that, another long time sober person, or shorter time BUT VERY COMFORTABLE person, BEFORE one acts.<BR/>as they say, "When in doubt, don't'.<BR/><BR/>Yeah I must do some posts on anonymity. Keep meaning to..An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-527223892196727772007-09-26T21:21:00.000+01:002007-09-26T21:21:00.000+01:00I thought about honesty a lot lately. I hadnt tol...I thought about honesty a lot lately. I hadnt told my mom about my going to AA until last night...mainly because I was afraid of what she was going to say. I havent told my dad yet, but knowing my mom, she has told him by now.<BR/><BR/>I kept telling myself - well she never asks me directly where I am spending my evenings, even though I am increasingly not available when she calls me tonight. So last night, when she asked me where I was driving to...I had to think for a moment. Do I tell her the truth, or do I make something up. I mean if I really want to work on myself and feel better about everything, choosing when to be honest and when not to be, solely based on convenience,....its just not going to work. So I told her - for th emost part it was positive, but she had to get some hurtful comments in there, only like she can. I dont think she can help herself!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your thoughts and have a great day!<BR/>Kindly,<BR/>kathrinKathrin Ivanovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04907011262201598495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-84021624103392803652007-09-25T22:52:00.000+01:002007-09-25T22:52:00.000+01:00I Love You!! thank you for the encouragement, and ...I Love You!! thank you for the encouragement, and good luck with the next semester! I'll be watching out (in between everything else!) your progress :) God IS Amazing isnt He?johnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340689357666450129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-34590979715232440752007-09-25T20:18:00.000+01:002007-09-25T20:18:00.000+01:00Living in absolutes is not good. It can set one up...Living in absolutes is not good. It can set one up for failure, the either or thing. I suppose it can be helpful at times depending on the situation. <BR/><BR/>Darn spammers. I had someone hack into my Wordpress account and change my labels. Made me very upset, how invasive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-23929792412707506722007-09-25T15:01:00.000+01:002007-09-25T15:01:00.000+01:00Telling the ego-puncturing truth isn't always easy...Telling the ego-puncturing truth isn't always easy for sure. I think about total honesty in my amends to my SO and I balk. It may take a while but I'll get there. I want to do no harm and have to tread lightly.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-86530804514060774512007-09-25T11:01:00.000+01:002007-09-25T11:01:00.000+01:00sometimes there is a grey area, right!!! and enjoy...sometimes there is a grey area, right!!! and enjoy what you're doing today.Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.com