tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post5964596542592924037..comments2024-01-13T01:45:45.724+00:00Comments on Recovery Archive: Recognizing (Self Centered) Fear in its unflattering forms! It's not pretty!An Irish Friend of Billhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-80497870438648243112015-04-22T14:58:55.616+01:002015-04-22T14:58:55.616+01:00Self centered fear is not easy recognized, though ...Self centered fear is not easy recognized, though I have alot of the actions you described in your experience shared.. Didn't even recognize that self centered fear is what those actions are... I have lost my mom 2 & 1/2 months ago & believe my character defects seriously and frightenly have gotton worse even though things and positivity in aa I have learned.. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-63529010044396897732012-05-19T22:12:41.331+01:002012-05-19T22:12:41.331+01:00Thank you so much for this. At 3 years sober my li...Thank you so much for this. At 3 years sober my life is once again riddled with illogical fear. I can shake it for periods by attending meetings, working with my sponsee, etc. Amazing how this program always has a solution if I am willing to do the work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-83856678507173004752011-10-07T20:23:37.801+01:002011-10-07T20:23:37.801+01:00I don't get what the difference is between sel...I don't get what the difference is between self centered fear and regular fear, they sound the same to me?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-27050110398327437482010-12-19T16:03:05.949+00:002010-12-19T16:03:05.949+00:00Wow...I definitely got this thing called self cent...Wow...I definitely got this thing called self centered fear.<br /><br />Here is what it can do to ya. Keep you from going to meetings, keep you from calling your sponsor because you just know what they are going to say, keep you couped up in the house most of the day which makes everything even worse. <br /><br />LEAN INTO IT...thats what professional ski jumpers do when they go off the jump and they usually go far and rarely wreck on the landing. <br /><br />I'm at 19 months sober and Im commiting to 90 in 90 no matter if people give me the "You are weird" look in meetings or if I bust down and cry for no reason. I definitely dont want to end up drinking hospitalized or dead.<br /><br />Youd be surprised what working the coffee bar can do to help get you started in the right direction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-64186255064867960472009-05-28T15:34:44.860+01:002009-05-28T15:34:44.860+01:00I lived with an alcoholic boyfriend for ten years ...I lived with an alcoholic boyfriend for ten years and although we are no longer together, five yrs seperated now, my self centered fear still rules my life. I'm always compulsively worrying about things....dreading...convinced of the worst. I"m convinced i know what's going to happen all the time in my future and it's always horrendous.I CONVINCE myself of this until it becomes my reality. I haven't been to a meeting in a long time and i'm thinking of going once again. Unbelievable how alcoholism if untreated stays with you even if your no longer with the alcoholic. I know i'm still ill.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-18025095488233124072009-01-05T17:40:00.000+00:002009-01-05T17:40:00.000+00:00Thanks rainey, well I think we all suffer from sel...Thanks rainey, well I think we all suffer from self-centred fear. All I know is that the more I think about those and what I can do for them, the easier life gets. And the more I get very self concerned and very preoccupied with myself, the more lousy and uncomfortable life gets.<BR/> thanks for dropping by!An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29205162.post-18111881902840645652009-01-05T16:24:00.000+00:002009-01-05T16:24:00.000+00:00Dear Friend of Bill,I get this! Thanking for post...Dear Friend of Bill,<BR/>I get this! Thanking for posting your comments on this terrible dilemma. I suffer from self centered fear often and have been sober 18 years. You spelled it out simply for me. Thanks so much for validating my problem as being part of my disease!Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15113895506422805321noreply@blogger.com