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I have recovered from the disease of Alcoholism. I believe there is only one person really,.. everybody. And that peace of mind is everything. -So treat your neighbor as you would treat yourself, because your neighbor IS yourself. I think most of recovery is what I would call common sense, but that learning to be ordinary is a true gift very few people acquire. My ambition is to accept everything unflinchingly, with compassion, and therefore be intrinsically comfortable in my own skin, no matter what. I am comfortable being uncomfortable and am willing to go to any lengths to improve my life. I believe the Big Book was divinely inspired, and is extraordinarily powerful. Unfortunately AA's best kept secret a lot of the time. (In my opinion). I just try to do what works, no matter what it is.

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Surrendered single book is ok

Having looked through the surrendered single, it looks alright. The only bit I wasn't convinced about was the bit at the end about getting married. But that's because I don't like the legal framework in this country around divorce laws. That's a very personal viewpoint. Personally, I would not bail if someone didn't want to get legal. All this stuff about 'people are more committed because they get married', I just found a bit patronizing. And although she goes to great trouble to emphasize that she's neither being manipulative or offering an ultimatum when she suggests saying you will bail if there's no marriage in the offing. Well I thought it was a bit lame. If that's not an ultimatum, I don't know what is.
But then its not just the divorce laws and dodgy settlements that I have problems with. I think relationships between men and women need to be reviewed and overhauled generally. In order to have some integrity. Whatever. So basically im not a fan of society's norms in this regard as in most others.

But anyway, her advice is alright. Just seems like common sense to me now, but if its all new to you, you may as well check this book out.
My god, the bookshops are FULL of dating advice these days. There are loads of books on how to do internet dating as well now.
I didn't see anything new or interesting in what she said, but then I'm difficult to please in that sense. It all seems like very ordinary advice. Nothing new. No ideas I haven't come across before. But a good summary nonetheless of standard dating advice.

1 comment:

Dating-Guru said...


I recently published an article on the complexities of dating in general and blind dating and online dating in particular – here is a quote from it, in case you are interested:

How to create your profile?
1. Make a realistic profile. Try to show your best qualities without lying about something you are not. Try to find out what exactly appreciate the other at you;
2. List the most important features you expect your partner to have, but don’t exaggerate, just stick to the real life;
3. Learn to recognize a cheater from a sincere person by reading that person’s profile or by asking a set of questions that would reveal that person’s ego;
4. Start by chatting with more than one person;
5. Try to communicate with that person in an open manner;
6. Study the other’s profiles to help your create a more attractive profile for yourself;
7. Save yourself if necessary and don’t let these kind of virtual reality seize you completely. Give yourself more options in your life and consider virtual reality as one of the many, and not the only way.

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