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I have recovered from the disease of Alcoholism. I believe there is only one person really,.. everybody. And that peace of mind is everything. -So treat your neighbor as you would treat yourself, because your neighbor IS yourself. I think most of recovery is what I would call common sense, but that learning to be ordinary is a true gift very few people acquire. My ambition is to accept everything unflinchingly, with compassion, and therefore be intrinsically comfortable in my own skin, no matter what. I am comfortable being uncomfortable and am willing to go to any lengths to improve my life. I believe the Big Book was divinely inspired, and is extraordinarily powerful. Unfortunately AA's best kept secret a lot of the time. (In my opinion). I just try to do what works, no matter what it is.

Sunday, June 17, 2007

A coffee pot and a resentment!: All you need to start your own meeting!

I and some Sponsees took on the service positions of a fairly local meeting as they arose a few years ago, because of similar concerns. Meaning I got a bit !! fed up listening to how grim, humorless, dull !! and downright tempting (in terms of drinking), sobriety was. Basically it was a bit ! grim. Well a bit too grim for MY preferences. (each to their own and all that.) It's nice to be able to go to a meeting that seems to more closely reflects my outlook. Apart from the fact that I don't actually !! identify with a lot of how people feel in recovery that I bump into in meetings, it just seemed like a nice idea, and it just so happened there was a bunch of positions that needed to be filled anyway. So I jus figured, why not? Give it a whirl and see what happens. Its turned out pretty well as it happens. There ARE more positive meetings where I live, but as you can probably telll I have VERY particular tastes. That's all. Plus I don't like having to travel halfway across town if I can help it. Too much effort!

I don't like too controlled or inflexible environments. Its just too simplistic for me. It doesn't embrace uncertainty. But I don't like the ones that seem to be flailing about in various stages of grimness either!! Somewhere in the middle suits me just fine! Not too rigid, not too wooly. Solution orientated, but VERY humane.

Anyway, that's what I did! after a LONG period of thinking 'why is everybody acting so weird and uptight?. Its VERY personal what appeals to different people. The other people at the meeting probably think its the cats whiskers! Each to their own, but if I have the option to seek out more like minded environments, I don't hang around for long if I can help it

So, instead of complaining about going to meetings (for whatever reason) you don't like very much, why not just set up your own. I'm sure you will find some people that want to get involved too, if you look for them.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...


I am an alchy who got sober in the UK 14 mths ago but moved out to West Africa (lagos to be precise) 1 mth ago. There are no meetings here and I pray to God everyday bring one person my way to start up a meeting. I have a blog which I set up called Ladyaloneinaa.blogspot.com and would be grateful for comments ideas, suggestions or better still anyone you may know out here that is in the fellowship! I am so grateful to be sober today and look forward to hearing from you.