This time of year. there are so many social pressures and expectations to live up to. (If you allow yourself to be bullied into them.) It takes quite a bit of effort not to buy into the whole thing. but its worth it! It really is JUST ANOTHER DAY. (Christmas I mean) I expect to barely notice it. Apart from a short trip to see my sisters nephews, it will be almost unnoticeable. but I'm helped in that I am distracted by study anyway.
I think London is at its best at Christmas. Its the most peaceful time of year. It gets SO empty in the city centre. No noise, no buses, bliss!
Christmas. Just don't buy into the whole thing. Don't even CONSIDER forcing yourself to so stuff you hate, or go see people you can't stand. Forget it!!
Avoid the shops unless your life depends upon it.
Meetings can be a bit grim at this time of year because people on the whole do not deal very well with it, but the 'diehard' service types working at the phone office or getting involved in setting up meetings on Christmas day are always in a good mood. So try to find those types when you go to a meeting. Either that or a newcomer. That's the best thing.
Unless you have kids and so a certain amount of paraphernalia is to be expected!! An empty room with one abject bauble wouldn't work for a three year old!
I know it sounds like bah humbug, but it really is JUST ANOTHER DAY, so why use it as an excuse to foist a load of irritating expectations and obligations on top of an already overcrowded schedule? I just don't see the point. I require no gifts, no fixes, no special attention, no special food. It'll just be the same ol same ol. Except I'll make a trip to see nephews.
Its just another day!
Its no big deal!
Don't do stuff you hate!
Don't see people you cant stand!
Tell all those people who keep asking you to take part in tedious social obligations, to stick their mindlessly-active-lifestyle-choices where the sun don't shine! (Not really! You can THINK it, but you can't SAY it!)
Just enjoy the lapse in frenetic work life and have a mince pie and a cup of tea or something. Or fall asleep in front of the telly. Haahaa
Or be a total rebel and eat pancakes all day or something else totally UNchristmassy.
Actually I have to say, some of the bigger Christmas day meetings here are really good if you can be bothered getting there. The big all day ones are always have upbeat chairs.
Oh yeah, and the same thing goes for the new year...
You're all going to think I'm a miserable bastard now! Hahaaha
Well I'm not, I just don't like being 'expected' to do stuff because a load of other people think its a bright idea..
Basically just do as you please. Don't feel obliged or pressured to do ANYTHING. Just do what makes you feel COMFORTABLE, no matter what it is. And if there's a social situation you cannot avoid, use it as an opportunity for service. (without being a doormat of course!)
Right I'd better get to the gym and back to the books..
- An Irish Friend of Bill
- I have recovered from the disease of Alcoholism. I believe there is only one person really,.. everybody. And that peace of mind is everything. -So treat your neighbor as you would treat yourself, because your neighbor IS yourself. I think most of recovery is what I would call common sense, but that learning to be ordinary is a true gift very few people acquire. My ambition is to accept everything unflinchingly, with compassion, and therefore be intrinsically comfortable in my own skin, no matter what. I am comfortable being uncomfortable and am willing to go to any lengths to improve my life. I believe the Big Book was divinely inspired, and is extraordinarily powerful. Unfortunately AA's best kept secret a lot of the time. (In my opinion). I just try to do what works, no matter what it is.
Saturday, December 23, 2006
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have a good one at the Gym and Happy christmas!
Merry Christmas! I agree with your viewpoints and advice on this topic.
Here is a small gift for you:
A Merry Christmas to you. Keep on posting Bro.
Greeting from Malaysia.
thanks debs! I'd have said thanks on your blog but wasn't able to find it, so hope you have a restful holiday and all that..
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