You can feel RIGHT with the WRONG person.
(It feels VERY familiar, meaning its probably crap!)
You can feel WRONG with the RIGHT person.
(its VERY UNfamiliar, meaning its probably a vast improvement on what you used to do)
You can feel SAFE in an UNSAFE place. (In bars when you are new)
You can feel UNSAFE in an SAFE place.(Newcomers often report feeling VERY unsettled in meetings when they first start going)
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You can feel CONFIDENT when you are utterly WRONG. (Arrogance)
You can feel UNCONFIDENT when you are utterly RIGHT. (Inability to take oneself seriously)
You can feel DEFENSIVE when no one has 'attacked' you. (Persecution complex)
You can feel 'not attacked' when some one HAS treated you badly. (Doormat)
DO YOU GET IT????
FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS
THEY MEAN VIRTUALLY NOTHING
PLEASE LEARN HOW TO LOOK OBJECTIVELY AT THE SITUATION INSTEAD OF LETTING FEELINGS CLOUD YOUR JUDGEMENT
And whatever you do, DO NOT FOLLOW YOUR FEELINGS BLINDLY. EVER!!
Feelings tell you a LOT about your HABITS and your COMFORT ZONE and not much else. They are NOT a true reflection of reality. They often tell you the OPPOSITE of what is true.
That's why, we hear people say in AA 'do the opposite of what your head tells you'
About Me
- An Irish Friend of Bill
- I have recovered from the disease of Alcoholism. I believe there is only one person really,.. everybody. And that peace of mind is everything. -So treat your neighbor as you would treat yourself, because your neighbor IS yourself. I think most of recovery is what I would call common sense, but that learning to be ordinary is a true gift very few people acquire. My ambition is to accept everything unflinchingly, with compassion, and therefore be intrinsically comfortable in my own skin, no matter what. I am comfortable being uncomfortable and am willing to go to any lengths to improve my life. I believe the Big Book was divinely inspired, and is extraordinarily powerful. Unfortunately AA's best kept secret a lot of the time. (In my opinion). I just try to do what works, no matter what it is.
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my life has been filled with anger towards my family and loved ones. I have been in denial about my problems and only through rigerious treatment have I came to believe in the wrongs of my past. Still today I cannot carry on a decient conversation with my family. I need definate more help to deal with my anger with family in the past.
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